Maeve shares her unique perspective – and also may make you cry. Beware of our StoryCorp type episodes. This week is a chemo week and I slept 20 hours yesterday.  I find the more I sleep, the less I notice the side effects.  But I am groggy and tired and nauseated and have had a bad taste of metal in my mouth.  If my foot wasn’t broke I might walk 1/2 mile with one of the dogs and a young adult.  I had a great meal from a neighbor cooked at her home on Sunday.  Thank you Dianne, Steffi, and Addie.  It was almost like a pre-chemo party.  Love those kind of evenings. Now 1/4 of the way through.  I also spent some great time with old friends from my “Return of the Masterminds” and allowed them to inspire me – to write a book before this time next year.

That is so true.  Organic pea soup with mint and some cream of broccoli soup have been excellent as well.  Thanks for all the chefs who stopped by as Maeve recuperated from tonsillectomy.  I do believe her pain, discomfort, and misery were well beyond any post operative discomfort that I had.  She has had the opportunity to read on line that women who go through childbirth say the pain scale is the same – just not as long to have a baby.  Maeve does babysit – she she realizes when childbirth pain ends new issues arise that last longer than postoperative pain.  Downtime always give one time to wonder – so she is wondering if she would have potential in real estate.  I am sure she will reach out to Laurie Elsass and my frieds Deb Goldach and Brad Weatherford to get some insights and a path forward on this.

In the mean time, I had chemo yesterday and Owen came with me.  That is such a comfort to have one of my peeps with me.  Of course, another lively patient, brought 4 of her friends and it was like a kitchen klatch.  They didn’t mind us joining in occasionally – so a bit of a party at chemo!  Got to embrace the good stuff.    I spoke with the pharmacist and we went over alot of options to help with five days of unremitting nausea.  We added another long lasting medicine yesterday and discussed a few others.  All the medications in the phenothiazine category – I have had great practice with in three pregnancies that had nine months of hyperemesis.  So even some of the new more powerful antiemetics are out.  We discussed using the erythromycin family of medications and azithromycin (known as zpack) is from along ago study that helps with gastric emptying.  This seems to add to the nausea in that gemzar slows everything down  – so we are going to try this.  Also more ativan and that seems to be helping today.  No appetite but nausea at a mimimum.  Physical movement except between chair and kitchen is about the max of efffort that prevents nauses escalating for me.

Owen left to go to work before chemo ended – it was a long session yesterday – and Lisa Williamson brought me home – remember, it takes a village. She stayed and heated up soup for Maeve and helped her settle down more.

OK – post tonsillectomy recommendations:  Liquid Tylenol with codeine if possible – easier to swallow – may need up to 1 liter but can be dispense in 2 500ml bottles, magic mouth wash (lidocaine and maalox mixture) In addition studies show https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25902839 talernating ibuprofen is OK (studies done post opiod epidemic) with the Tylenol with codeine.  If you want to go to straight Tylenol that is OK  to dose Tylenol and then Motrin every 4 hours for pain relieve.  Lots of swelling – so if no complications and pain is severe – steroids as a medrol dose pack can help.  Finally, fever and bleeding require emergent calls to your doctor and possibly the hospital.  Expect 8-10 days of serious discomfort.  And get ready with ice packs!  Drink or eat whatever tastes good – tend to be soft and lukewarm to room temperature – although I did see a HaganDas bar eaten two days ago.  Discuss these items with your doctor before surgery.

Now – next episode is up for “I’ve got skin in the game”  Here is the lead in: and don’t forget:  Subscribe, share and rate your experience on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts.  There has been so much great feedback from the community to which these are shared – messages they needed to hear in their life or cancer journey.  Thank you all for making my dream come true,

This has been quite a week.  First of all, Owen and I recorded a podcast.  This reminds me of NPR’s StoryCorps – a weekly favorite of mine.   The podcast is a short one that packs alot of insight and emotion.  He gives his perspective of being a child whose parent is diagnosed with cancer.  He went through this at age 9 and now again at age 22.  He really wants his fellow children of cancer patients to know – you are going to be OK and that you will find great comfort from people caring.  People will show their caring in many ways and it is ok to be vulnerable to that caring.  It helps you in your journey.

And I have spent the week focusing on my energy level and continue to eat well and take walks.  I have found that watering the plants can be enough to make me need a 2 hour nap.  The lack of energy is so surprising to me and the need to nap such a welcome relief.

Finally, it was great to see the team at Timeless win the Red Nose contest on social media.  MJ2 did a great job raising awareness and money for children’s hunger.

My next podcast will come out tomorrow.   I have not had enough energy to record in the last few weeks.

Life continues – and milestones are celebrated.  Owen graduated from University of Arkansas on  May 11.  We were together as a family – and with our extended Arkansas family that took such great care of Owen during his time in Fayetteville.  It is hard to believe how quickly the time passes.  Maeve finished her first year at University of Vermont.  Maeve and Owen are home for the time being – both with work lined up and time available for me.  With the help of a friend, as most things happen these days, Maeve was able to get her tonsils out yesterday.  Since this past fall she has had almost a constant sore throat.   As I am ending this second round of chemo, she and I are enjoying simultaneous recuperation.

Chemo round 2 started the Monday after we returned from Arkansas.  I slept most of the time in the infusion room due to fatigue from the travel.  I was grateful to be able to enjoy the graduation, a few dinners out, and morning walks to get a cup of chai in Fayettechill at Owen’s favorite hangout.

Thankfully, my memory of chemotherapy in 2005 is somewhat akin to going through childbirth.  Something you remember as unpleasant –  the memory of discomfort is less than the reality..  While I am still taking a platinum based chemotherapy agent due to the long nature of my time without evidence of disease, a second (different) drug has been added.  I remember being fatigued in 2005 – I did not recall the unremitting nausea, lack of taste, and days long periods of not being able to do much more than walk around the house and the yard.  The good news is that napping comes easy and spring is in full glory here in Ohio.

A friend came by last week and added annuals, perennials, herbs and vegetables to our gardens around the house.  Each morning I wake up, I take a moment of gratitude for this special gift and something I surely could not have done for myself this year.

While Memorial Day celebrations occur this weekend, I hope to have the energy to have a few friends stop by – feel free to consider yourself invited if you are in the area.    Chemo round 3 begins on Tuesday morning – and then there will be 9 rounds left.

I am grateful this morning to feel good enough to be up as the sun rises and enjoy the singing of the birds.  Have a great day and enjoy the special gifts today brings.

In this weeks podcast, Kate Amicon Shneyder, COO, of Timeless Skin Solutions walks me through strategies for support. Kate was our nanny at the time of my first diagnosis and at the recurrence she works in the capacity of COO. So, she has had the unique perspective of helping the family on the first occasion and helping the business on the second. The home help was much more on the minute needs and task oriented and the business much more planned and controlled. Enjoy our candid discussion on learning how to give and receive help!

So this is what I learned this round of chemotherapy.  I am going to call the week of chemo: Netflix and Naps.  I watched the full series of Billions as well as finished Homeland – I had only seen through season 3.  I know – they are really Showtime Series but I thought Netflix and Naps was a good name for the week.  Three naps in one day was the usual need.  I don’t remember being as wiped out the last time from chemotherapy and certainly not for as long. Food tastes funky and not appealing at all.  The good news is, by the beginning of week 2 – the week off of chemo – my taste has returned and yesterday I was able to walk to the voting booth and home.

If you have a favorite series on Netflix, Amazon Prime or any of the other services – please comment~ there are 11 more weeks of chemo.  The good news is:  having time to nap was on my list of items I wanted to attend to in 2018 – and I am getting after it!

Enjoy the podcast today – Episode #6  is dedicated to the large clan of Roshetkos, in Cleveland and now around the world.  We have a great tradition of large Sunday dinner gatherings in my extended family.  Here are Jackie and Liz Roemer visiting last week for a Cinco de Mayo meal – they are the daughters of my cousin, Mary Roemer, you will hear on the podcast.  Of course, they brought the party with them!  Additionally in the photo collage – my cousins at a more recent family gathering and the last time I was together with all of my siblings.

Episode #5 – I’ve Got Skin in the Game

Our latest podcast, featuring Staci Musselman, is published and posted here on the right.  Notice that big smile – a year ago, she was diagnosed with cancer and made the journey a celebration.  Listen to how she took the moment to frame it in a way that made her journey joyful – and added joy to the lives of her friends and family.  My first chemo was on Monday.  I have had a couple of quiet days and not much of an appetite.  Yesterday was a blueberry day – cause that was all that tasted good!  Not enough blueberries were eaten to look like Violet Beauregarde of Willy Wonka’s chocolate factory!   I am immensely grateful for the outpouring of support from my family, friends and work.  One treatment down, 11 to go – one month behind me and six in front of me.  Maybe there is a song here somewhere?  Next week is Owen’s graduation and we are all looking forward to being together as a family for this wonderful celebration.  I am lining up at least one favorite thing to do between each chemotherapy session so there is more to mark off than just another treatment.  I have a friend’s wedding, a big meeting with my entrepreneur friends, another wedding for a cousin, and I wish I could say some overseas travel – think I will wait until all treatments are done for that.  As my cousin Charlie shared with me:  Chose Happiness.  It really is the easier choice.  Have a great day everyone – from wherever you are reading this in the world!

Laurie Elsass, mother, friend and real estate agent inspires me to take the opportunities life hands us – many times unexpected and unwanted – and how to make positive change for individuals and your community.  Enjoy the listen – remember to subscribe, share and review on your favorite podcast platform!  The forth episode of “I’ve Got Skin in the Game” is now published. The podcast links and the audio is listed on the right side bar here.

Last week I had my first outing  to the Dublin Rotary meeting. I feel good enough to walk three miles per day – some times in segments and then mostly I need a nap after that. Next week I start chemo and that will go every other week for six months.  I will let you know more, when I know more – other than I have great support. Both Maeve and Owen will be home for the summer. At the Dublin Rotary meeting, a presentation was given on the new library in Dublin. I am co chair, with Cid Rhomberg, for the Dublin Library Capital Campaign. The new library has broken ground and the capital campaign is about to begin. Libraries have played a big role in my life, from the time I was little and walked to the library with my siblings and neighbors throughout the summer – through medical school and residency.  I love libraries and I love books!  Dublin’s initial library was made for a community of 3,800 people – our community will be over 45,000 by the time the new library is complete. In our community, 30% of the children arrive to kindergarten not being on track to learn to read. All of the new library updates and buildings have had capital campaigns to go along with civic funding. Libraries provide the resources to be the great equalizer in our community and keep our community strong. Feel free to donate to the new library campaign here:  https://foundation.columbuslibrary.org/dublin